A marriage will certainly have to face a lot of challenges. Some of them will be more difficult than others, and some couples have to face a much more difficult problem than others. Knowing how to handle it while choosing to be with and caring for each other can be the most dificult thing to do, especially when you’re facing with alcoholism like I was.
For years, my marriage was the perfect one. We never had an argument, never had a fight, we had 2 beautiful kids and it seemed as if nothing could change what we had. It was only after a while that I realized what was happening.
I want to share you about 4 methods that prove alcoholism can ruin your marriage life which happened to me without even realizing it. This way, if you or someone you love ever go through something similar, you will be able to react and do something about it, to ensure that everyone you love stays healthy and happy.
A good relationships can be determined by trust and respect. Alcoholism can change it, become a deadly enemy that will get rid of everything from you without notice. Telling lies will become an alcoholic routine that causes your partner’s weakening of trust in you.
Alcoholic tend to defend their addiction with everything they have. It also includes lying to your spouse about the amount of money you spend for it and how often you do it. Normally, you keep everything from everyone because deep inside, the shame, and the guilt are present as you know you are doing something wrong, even if you don’t want to accept it.
Violence and mood
You don’t pay attention on it until it’s too obvious. Like another addictive substance. Alcohol can causes bad behaviors and ruin your mood which can result different attitudes unlike you normally do. When alcohol is involved, from tendency towards addiction to crustiness and mood changes, these can cause things to become very complicated in the household.
Things we don’t mean can surface and irreparable damage can be caused. If you’re not careful, it can become a domino effect of isolation, self-destruction, and harm against all your loved ones.
Once alcohol becomes your priority, bigger issues start to appear. In my case, I started having financial problems because when drinking becomes a habit, it also gets expensive. I forgot about my wife, even though we were still living and sleeping together I always was too drunk to love her,
My situation at work was getting more complicated by the minute until it all collapsed. The facts and the consequences of my addiction started to pile up, thus leading to tension in my marriage. And though it had become a disease by that time, it’s hard to forget the fact that it was my choice to start abusing alcohol.
Problems with your kids
The most painful part for me perhaps was the pain I caused my children. Watching their father is not responsive, failing to help parents-teacher meetings and yelling at them for no reason is one of the things I most regret. They had done nothing to deserve that and though I finished the program years ago, there is not a single day where the guilt doesn’t invade my mind and my heart, the exact same way alcohol used to run through my body back then.
Alcoholism is still largely ignored in our society. If you are able to spot these early signs, it can give you a healthy, happy life full of love and support.
If you know anyone you love or maybe even yourself is dealing with alcohol addiction, understand that this is a serious illness and must be healed immediately. Seek for professional help and always tell them that you will always be there to help them.
If you’d like to ask a question or suggest any other ways alcoholism can affect marriage, leave a comment below.